Sex in Relationships! What is “Normal” and What’s Not!

Sex is the best! Having a deep, sexual relationship with someone can be incredibly rewarding. Because sex is so expressive and so intimate, when a couple is out of wack, the lack of sex is just a symptom. More times than not, it’s the man who is demanding more and eventually will just turn to porn or someone else’s hole. When a couple does begin to have problems and the arguments get harsher and the two become more and more distant, it only makes the sexual concern that much more of a problem. No one wants to have sex when they are frustrated, angry or sad.

Sometimes, we don’t realize just how important sex in a relationship can be. Most of us live busy, hectic, fast paced lives and sex usually takes a backseat when there are life matters. Family, work, stress, and fatigue all put a damper on a good romp in the sheets. Women also need to feel loved and supported. The emotional side of things weighs more heavily than the physical imagery men are accustomed too.

As therapist Aaron Anderson puts it, sex is just about the only thing that sets you apart from just being roommates (FamilyShare). It requires the both of you to be intimate with each other and to share things you don’t share with anyone else. It is for this reason that sex is extremely important in a healthy relationship. As far as how often, that is a whole other story. Factors like your sex drive, lifestyle, free time and things of that nature need to be taken into account. The ideal situation would be so that you both are, for the most part, on the same page and have the same sex drive as one another.

How long is too long?

Sex is indeed vital to a healthy relationship. Sex is a beautiful bonding session with you and your lover. There are times where you have tons of sex and there are times when you don’t. Because life happens, sometimes we get busy.

But every relationship is truly unique. It’s just like therapist Isadora Alma says; it all depends on the individuals themselves (psychology.com). Sex is such an individual and personal thing. So, when it comes to how long is too long, the answer lies with you. If your partner has not been open to sex in a week and you feel it’s driving you nuts, then a week, in your case, is too long. It’s important to communicate with your partner. Relationships are not always easy and that’s OK. Through communicating with our partner, practicing understanding and being patient, we can gain better intimacy and cultivate better love and therefore, have better sex.

When somebody experiences intimacy and reaches orgasm, we feel vulnerable, defenseless, carefree and there is a sense of timelessness. These are the characteristics and true nature of our spirit. We share this energy with those we care about where our energies can meld with theirs.

Living your life with this level of intimacy allows the creative energy of the universe to merge with your spirit. Wouldn’t that make it important to be aware with whom you share this intimacy with? Don’t allow people to use or manipulate you through sex. Be selective and strategic in who you allow to share your energy with.

It seems that age is a factor in all of this, too. As we age, our sex drive changes. Men seem to be super horny when they are younger and women get hornier when they are older. Women and men go through hormonal changes and it can greatly affect their sex life. In other words, maybe you don’t feel turned on because of a hormonal imbalance. It could also be that you’re bored and you need to spice it up. (Check out some fun idea that you can try anytime.) Winter Date Ideas

At the end of the day, what matters the most is that the partners communicate with one another. After all, isn’t that what sex is: another form of a communication, albeit a very intimate one. Be open and honest with each other and your great conversation could lead to something more physical. As with almost everything in life, communication is key.



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