The Value of Writing an Old Fashioned Love Letter
Depending on how old you are, you may not remember what it was like getting a handwritten love letter much less a letter in the mail from your boyfriend, fiance or husband or anyone else for that matter. Your grandparents, and possibly even your parents, will remember that feeling of the postman dropping off the mail and finding that special envelope addressed just to them. In fact, I have a 75 year old surrogate Grandma who is my long time pen pal. She and I truly appreciate the thoughtfulness and uniqueness of the stationary, the message, and even getting it in the mail. It’s really rather sad that technology has rendered the old fashioned handwritten love letters obsolete but such is life. Times and change and so must we...but is the love letter totally lost on this generation of lovers?
Love Letter Writing is Nostalgic
These days, with nearly every household owning a computer or at least a laptop and having a smartphone, the need for handwritten love letters has just about disappeared. You can just email or text your love and have it delivered instantly. For a generation that has never known any other way, getting a letter in the mail (especially handwritten) can be the most unique and endearing gift of all.
It can bring the couple back to a time of nostalgia when a letter was the only way a couple could communicate through distance. Once upon a not so distant past, to send news, gossip, or love between war-torn lovers, letter writing was the only way. In an era when there were no such things as phones, computers, or televisions, writing a letter brought people together and kept them together. Love between people is as old as time and what better way to celebrate your love than to putting pen to paper just like your ancestors had.
Love Letter Writing is Unique and Personal
Nothing is more special than the act of a man or woman you love sitting down and taking the time to write out all of their thoughts and feelings in a letter to you. It takes very little effort to text someone but to go through the steps and actually compose a handwritten memory is super special. There is so much excitement when you open your mailbox and see that letter sitting in there waiting for you to retrieve it and open it. For the sender, there is an enormous amount of pride and accomplishment that comes from doing something super romantic.
Your Love Letters Are Part of Your Legacy
Once you’ve read it, you probably will read it over and over again. You can tuck it into your purse or backpack and take it with you to school or work. Throughout the day, you know it’s sitting close to you and when you take a break, it’s there for you to read once more. Far after we are gone, no one will care about the million texts we may have sent. But, a letter will last. It can even be passed down to the generations to come. Now, ask yourself, seriously, if emails get the same response. Can you think of a single email that would be worth printing out and storing away? Letters are part of your legacy!
You Don’t Necessarily have to Mail your Letters
Speak the words that are in your heart in the form of ink on paper. Then you can choose to either mail it or leave it in a special place to be found. These are perfect little surprises to include in a briefcase or suitcase when the one you love is going to be traveling for some reason. When he unpacks, he’ll find your thoughtful little surprise and think about you the entire time you’re apart. You can keep your letter romantic or spice it up a bit. The choice is yours. The point of an old fashioned hand written love letter is that you took the time to sit down and write it and it can be cherished for times to come.
STEPS TO WRITING YOUR FIRST LOVE LETTER
Buy some stationary. It doesn’t have to be fancy and if you have an at-home printer you can easily make your own, but Target and Michael's have a nice selection and if you are like me and like supporting local business, a thorough Google search in your city will do the trick. I like to buy the packs with various different styles so that it can be tailored to different occasions and it can add variety.
Keep some good pens handy. If you are like me, you can never find a pen when you need one. I’m sure that all my pens are hanging out with all my lost socks and hair ties having a party somewhere. Try to get some good quality pens and keep them in a super secret locale where no one else can find them and you can’t lose them.
Find some time to write. With all of our hectic and busy lives it’s hard to find time to just sit and do anything these days. I recommend carving out a good half-hour up to a solid hour in a comfortable chair at a table and get to writing. Once you get into the swing of things, you’ll find it easier and easier to write and come up with things to say that you haven’t already communicated through text. Remember, this letter isn’t about who needs to buy dog food, it’s intended to be romantic, thoughtful, sweet and to share your appreciation for this special person in your life.
Include a self addressed, stamped envelope. If you want a response back from your lover include a self addressed, stamped envelope so that they not only get the hint but they don’t have to worry about getting a stamp and envelope together.
Anyone will do. If you don’t have a lover or you just don’t think yours will appreciate the thoughtful attention, send a loving letter to someone else that you care about: Family, friends, grandparents you haven’t talked to in ages. Anyone who loves you will appreciate the thoughtfulness and spreading joy and love is what life is all about.